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The Charisma Bootloader

[TL;DR: Think of charismatic people when trying to be charismatic.]

There’s a lot of advice on how to be charismatic during presentations, interviews, etc.

Much of it involves very specific tips.

Deconstructing charisma to individual components doesn’t work, at least for me. Smile more. Eye contact. Repeat their name. Etc. This leaves me with many dials to fret about. Once it all adds up, it can be a little daunting to remember and makes it hard to have a genuine and flowful conversation; both parties procedurally executing various instructions like a CPU.

“Just be yourself” doesn’t sound very inspiring. I think one could do better! You can try and be someone else, someone inspiring and exciting. Someone that gives a sense of abundance. Someone that when you talk to, you feel like you’ll always invite to the party. The question is how.


Somewhere in the middle is the concept of channeling, which I find a powerful way to get free and instant charisma.

Channeling means loading a personality profile into the mind. For every activity, a different personality might be useful. For an interview, think of your favorite interviewer. For presentations, think of your favorite presenter. Just try and be them for 45 minutes.

YouTube School. Some people watch soap operas to zone out. An alternative (equally brain-dead activity) is to watch hours of your favorite presenter. I found it slightly more virtuous as it helps me channel them better.

Beyond charisma. I think this works for management leadership, public presentations, interviews, but even beyond that. It feels like humans are deeply mimetic, and plenty of studies show that subtle neuromuscle activations happen when we just watch athletes perform. I imagine you could have channel-profiles for almost every activity you want to improve at in life.

This should be easy and fun. The trick to channeling these people is to avoid explicit thinking (“speak loudly”), and instead to try and osmote their resonant frequency in a kind of subconscious way. This lets to move the process to System 1, without having to actively monitor your speech patterns, which might break the facade during the interview.