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Becoming Charismatic During Interviews

‘Trust’ ultimately means “I can simulate the other parties actions in my mind, and perceive them doing good things.”

Interviews don’t afford sufficient data points to build a full simulated model, so the interviewer will be looking to extrapolate based on similar patterns they’ve seen. The mind does this process through cues both noticeable (what you say) and subtle (your tone of voice, gestures, expressions).

The candidate knows this and attempts to outsmart the other party by overriding their natural cues in an attempt to “cheat” the system. Unfortunately, the other party always notices. This is why people are stiff and scripted during interviews. This makes the interview boring to both parties, as they exchange pleasantries in the form of scripted questions and answers. Nobody wants that.

A common piece of advice at this point in the essay is to “be yourself”. While that generally is true, I think one could do better. You can try and be someoone else, someone inspring and exciting. Someone that gives a sense of abundance. Someone that when you talk to, you feel like you’ll always invite to the party.

But to pass the interview, you need to try and be that person in a more permanent way that just a temporary act.

The trick to channeling these people is to avoid explicit thinking (“speak loudly”), and instead to try and osmote their resonant frequency in a kind of subconscious way. This lets to move the process to System 1, without having to actively monitor your speech patterns, which might break the facade during the interview.

It should feel like playing a musical scale instead of focusing on specific chords. In terms of how, I find it helpful to watch and listen to footage of people. I listen to audio records of them. I read what they wrote. As much as I can, I try to immerse myself in their culture. Adopt their resonant frequency.